I just watched the film titled, Everybody's Fine with Robert DeNiro. The previews show this to be a humors and light film but oh, contrary. This film hit deep into my heart and soul to the point my heart physically aches.
It is a story of a family of children who spend their lives making up stories about their lives as to not upset their dad. The dad is clueless, he had kept his head in the sand because he did not really want to know. Don't we all do this to some extent?
Lies and secrets were the family dance. In the dance, they all pretended to be something else while dying within. The dance was done under the premise to not worry dad and to keep dad happy. It was a life of illusions, a life of seperateness, tension and unhappiness. Deception always breads pain and seperation.
It was only when the dad opened his eyes to see the truth, that the walls of deception came tumbling down. The truth was revealed and shockingly, it was all O.K. Dad lived through the breakthrough and the children survived. When this happened, it gave them all permission to be, an entire family was set free. They reunited as One.
In reality, even with all of the good and all of the bad, everybody is truly FINE. Even though it was a painful movie to watch, it had a gripping story and a compelling and very insightful and valuable message.
We rob ourselves of life and of relationships when we do not own our truth and live a life of lies. It is when we share our joys and our heartaches that deep relationships form and grow. And in the end, in the words of my dad, "The only true value in life is interpersonal relationships." We can only develop interpersonal relationships if we take the time to connect at our core and to see the all of the other person.
The truth will set us free. In truth, we find true happiness and connectedness with others. We find Oneness.
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