Yesterday, I had the pleasure of meeting and being with Greg Mortenson, author of Three Cups of Tea. His presentation was powerful and his message life changing. The first chapter of his book was titled, Failure. He mentioned that in the region where he builds school there is no word for failure. This intrigues me.
He said, they call what we consider failure, a fork in the road. If they go out to attempt something and don't accomplish it, it is just a time to make a new decision. I love this. What would our life look like if the word failure did not exist.
I reviewing my life at all of the failures, I see that each one was a fork in the road. I was faced with a new decision and direction in my life. Each fork has lead me to the present moment. It took each fork to get me where I am today.
Because I love the analogy of life as being a buffet, forks fit a lot better than failure. I now own that no one ever fails, we just make a new decision at each fork in the road.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Love your enemies
All faith teach the importance of loving our enemies. This a practice I try to implement in my life. I begin by praying for those who have harmed me.
If the transgression is severe and I find it too difficult or painful to pray from them. I begin with a prayer of willingness, "God help me to be willing to pray for the so and so! Then the prayer progresses to "God bless the blanked d blank!" As my heart softens and becomes more pliable, my prayer becomes, "God bless (the name of the enemy)." I know healing is occuring when I can finally pray, "God Bless (name) with all of the blessings and happines I wish for me and my family."
This has been a powerful prayer process for healing and a stepping stone to a spiritual awakening. Try it, It will help.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
If the transgression is severe and I find it too difficult or painful to pray from them. I begin with a prayer of willingness, "God help me to be willing to pray for the so and so! Then the prayer progresses to "God bless the blanked d blank!" As my heart softens and becomes more pliable, my prayer becomes, "God bless (the name of the enemy)." I know healing is occuring when I can finally pray, "God Bless (name) with all of the blessings and happines I wish for me and my family."
This has been a powerful prayer process for healing and a stepping stone to a spiritual awakening. Try it, It will help.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
Friday, February 5, 2010
God is the source of happiness
When I was young, I sought love and happiness in the things of the world. I thought if only I had the right guy, more money, a different house, a bigger ring, nicer shoes, I would be happy. I was constantly focused on the things I could see. However, as I have matured and grown in my spiritual life through prayer and meditation, I have found so much more happiness in the unseen.
I find happiness in the small, everyday things, the sunset and sunrise, the gentle rain and the booming thunderstorms. I am surrounded by the abundance of creation, freely given and openly received. I claim the scripture, "whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours." Mark 11:24.
I live my life expecting the abundant blessings of God to come to me and all. In expecting good, I begin to experience the abundant happiness all around me. I begin to find pleasure in all things. I smile and I am happy. I am content.
Seek happiness and you will find happiness. It comes from within you. It comes from the indwelling spirit of God.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
I find happiness in the small, everyday things, the sunset and sunrise, the gentle rain and the booming thunderstorms. I am surrounded by the abundance of creation, freely given and openly received. I claim the scripture, "whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours." Mark 11:24.
I live my life expecting the abundant blessings of God to come to me and all. In expecting good, I begin to experience the abundant happiness all around me. I begin to find pleasure in all things. I smile and I am happy. I am content.
Seek happiness and you will find happiness. It comes from within you. It comes from the indwelling spirit of God.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Commitment brings Purpose and Happiness
The more I focus on the idea of commitment, I find that people who make a commitment to do anything create a sense of purpose in their life. And when people have a sense of purpose, they seem to be happier.
Perhaps this is the idea of goal setting. To set a goal and move toward that goal, gives one a reason to get out of bed in the morning. It also awakens an inner strength to overcome obstacles in ones life; especially, if the goal has been shared with others.
Once a goal is achieved, there is a sense of accomplishment and empowerment. The "I did it!" dance is danced. An inner knowing fills our being and flows out to others. Commitment gives purpose, leads to happiness, which leads to confidence.
I encourage you to test this theory. Make a commitment to do something, learn something, accomplish something; share it with friends; then follow through. Let me know if you find purpose and experience inner happiness.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
Perhaps this is the idea of goal setting. To set a goal and move toward that goal, gives one a reason to get out of bed in the morning. It also awakens an inner strength to overcome obstacles in ones life; especially, if the goal has been shared with others.
Once a goal is achieved, there is a sense of accomplishment and empowerment. The "I did it!" dance is danced. An inner knowing fills our being and flows out to others. Commitment gives purpose, leads to happiness, which leads to confidence.
I encourage you to test this theory. Make a commitment to do something, learn something, accomplish something; share it with friends; then follow through. Let me know if you find purpose and experience inner happiness.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Commitment to Love
Dr. David Gilbert, a Harvard Psychologist suggests, "Commitment is not just a sign of love, it is the cause of love. I find this quite true for me. I dated several different people in my life before I was married. I told them that "I loved them" but our relationships seemed unsettling. There was always an undercurrent of fear.
Fear they would find someone else; fear I would do something to anger them and they would leave; fear that by staying around without a commitment, I would miss the opportunity to meet the man of my dreams.
This fear was relieved when I married my husband. We had a commitment, we were in this for the long haul, through thick and thin. It was so much easier to be happy when I was not always looking over my shoulder or living in fear of rejection or abandonment.
We have so much fun, knowing we are committed to one another. We are able to make plans, make decisions for our future as one. Joining together in a committed relationship makes room for love to grow, and joy to manifest.
Of course, we have our disagreements or tiffs; but we work through them because we know it is worth it. The good has out weighed the bad, and our love continues to blossom as we manage our way through the thorns of life.
A joy shared is doubled, a burden shared is halved. Find someone to share your life with, make a commitment, it will create more love and happiness in your life.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
Fear they would find someone else; fear I would do something to anger them and they would leave; fear that by staying around without a commitment, I would miss the opportunity to meet the man of my dreams.
This fear was relieved when I married my husband. We had a commitment, we were in this for the long haul, through thick and thin. It was so much easier to be happy when I was not always looking over my shoulder or living in fear of rejection or abandonment.
We have so much fun, knowing we are committed to one another. We are able to make plans, make decisions for our future as one. Joining together in a committed relationship makes room for love to grow, and joy to manifest.
Of course, we have our disagreements or tiffs; but we work through them because we know it is worth it. The good has out weighed the bad, and our love continues to blossom as we manage our way through the thorns of life.
A joy shared is doubled, a burden shared is halved. Find someone to share your life with, make a commitment, it will create more love and happiness in your life.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Happiness is an attitude
Happiness is experienced when you can just stop,
look around and say,
"You know what,
LIFE is GOOD!"
These are the words of my 14 year old daughter.
Smile, the young are truly our future.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
www.onenessoflife.com
Monday, February 1, 2010
Love is in the air
Today is the first day of February.
It is the month of Love,
so I say to you, Aloha!
which means,
I love you.
It is the month of Love,
so I say to you, Aloha!
which means,
I love you.
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