Judy Ford, in her book, Wonderful Ways to Love a Child, gives several ideas about expressing love to your children. The top two being "really love yourself and allow them to love themselves." These two priorities are paramount and life changing in the lives of our children.
This day and age, our children are exposed to things I didn't know anything about until I was in my late 20's. They are growing up so fast, without the tools to deal with the information overload.
I notice that they really have no healthy boundaries in most of their relationships. Boys and girls speak crudely and disrespectfully to one another, clueless that this behavior dwindles their self-worth and self-respect. With the dwindling of self-worth, their self-esteem plummets and their ability to love themselves is diminished.
Spend time with a child, love them, and show them healthy interpersonal boundaries. Stick up for them if someone treats them disrespectfully. Show them by your interest that they are loved.
It has been proven that children who play on a playground with a fenced boundary use the full spectrum of the play area. Those without the fenced boundary, stay close to the inside. By setting boundaries, we show our love and at the same time, we expand their life experience.
Interesting paradox.
© 2010 by Becky Benes
www.onenessoflife.com
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